Please Somebody, Love That Woman
By Daniel Owino Ogweno |
A woman is waiting on God to be loved by a man;
A man is waiting for a Miss Perfect;
But God is waiting on the man to love His daughter.
The waiting game continues, but a man knows the button stops in his hand.
A woman is waiting and praying;
Time flies to accumulate more years on her age;
But crawls to bring the God-sent love of a man;
The man, however, is made; he was made ahead of her.
God has brought a woman to cross a man’s path;
Are you a man enough? Arise, propose, and marry!
Only one condition though, and must not be compromised whatsoever:
The woman is saved; a woman who loves Christ;
She is not playing religious games in order to get a godly man.
Are you a man? It is not good for you to be alone; a woman is waiting;
Not sure who to choose? Don’t choose, take one, her, the one waiting.
Adam didn’t have a choice; he took the one whom God brought his way.
Don’t think that because they are many, you have to choose.
A marriage goes awry because a man “chooses” instead of taking a woman.
If it is marriage, it is not about choosing; it is about taking.
A man is asking: “How can you just propose to anybody?”
But she is not just “anybody”; she is saved, a child of God.
Let me illustrate: The other day, I was in the food store, buying fruits;
I tried choosing mandarin oranges; I wouldn’t pay for bad fruits;
I thought I succeeded in getting the good ones until I reached home.
After two days, I discovered that I had failed after all;
Despite my keenness, I didn’t see some spots at the time of choosing;
Some of the oranges were not as good as they looked; only two days on and they were showing signs of rotting; I threw them away.
If a man is choosing a woman to marry, he is setting himself up for surprises.
When a man gets a woman home, a man will discover something after “two days”:
A woman is not necessarily what she looked before she was brought home.
A man who was keen on a “choice woman”;
Will “throw” a woman away when he discovers she is not as good as she looked.
Of course, a man shouldn’t just pick rotten fruits because he doesn’t want to choose;
A woman who is saved and loves Christ cannot be equated with a rotten fruit.
Marriage is not about what a man is going to get;
It is, rather, what a man is going to give.
The basis of love is not the chemistry, the feelings, the passions; the attractions.
It is, rather, the choice to love; the covenant to keep and the commitment to cherish.
Marital climatic changes are wont to hit at one point or the other;
When this happens, what kind of love will weather the resulting storms?
It is love that is cemented by sacrifices rather than the compatibility of interests.
The foundation of marriage is not the expectations of the thrills of sharing someone’s life; it is, rather, the preparation for the grills of responsibility occasioned by someone sharing your life.
There is nothing wrong with being passionately attracted to a woman. The author himself was swept off his feet by passions of love and affections kindled by irresistible attractions.
The only problem is to have unrealistic expectations and the hopes that honeymoon will be the lifestyle. The only honeymoon that will last and which you can count on is that which YOU have decided to unconditionally give to your spouse.
When we settle down to business, the strength of our marriage must shift its foundational paradigms.
In the author’s case, they decided that they were going to build their marriage on the covenant commitment. In this way they relegated the “feelings” to a distant backstage. Feelings are like weather: they not only vary from time to time, they can also be stormy and destructive at times.
When the thrills of courtship have cooled down, the grills of marriage should cement rather than tear it apart.
Divorce? Don’t even think about it. It is irrelevant. The Blood of Christ is the seal for the covenant of marriage.
Sex before marriage? Don’t even think about it; it is irrelevant.
Don’t lose your integrity. Don’t allow any one enter into a bargaining deal with you on something that is not for sale. Whatever price he/she names, your answer must be “N/A” (Not Applicable).
Have a blessed marriage!
May the Lord give you the grace to give your best.
2007 by Daniel Owino Ogweno.
Ogweno is the author of THE SECRET WEAPON AGAINST TERRORISM, VIRTUE THAT COUNTS and A LIFE OF AN ENTHUSIASTIC WORSHIP, among others. http://danielogweno.blogspot.com